Mykela ˚͜˚ Harley Just a question: If you are IMing someone and they just get up in mid convo and leave, without as much as a goodbye, brb, gotta go, no nothing….is that considered rude to you?
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Carol VERY MUCH so! happens to me all the time.
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Renee yes
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‘Mykela ˚͜˚ Harley Thank you! Someone told me they dont consider it rude especially if I just sit in front the pc all day anyway. It doesnt matter whether I sit here for 24-7-365, RUDE is RUDE. If u have to leave, then have the common courtesy to say ‘brb’ or ‘gotta go’ or something. bathroom break…thats fine but if u get up tp go cook and eat or leave the house, atleast say bye! I despise rude ass people!
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Renee Some people don’t know what rude i because they have no home tranin or manners so what you do is pray for tem and not upset your space or your spirit
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Cristiana I use to delete people like that straight away. Doesn’t matter if they are virtual or RL friends.
I would find that 3 seconds to type – “excuse my a sec” even if the house were on fire, and I want to be treated with just the same politeness.
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Tim Yep. That’s rude. People need to recognize that manners apply to virtual interactions too. Some may apply differently from RL interactions, but ultimately, you’re dealing with a real person and respect for them applies absolutely. The thing that bothers me the most is people shooting their “mouth” off saying things online that they wouldn’t dream of saying face-2-face (because they’d probably get their @$$ kicked) just because of the perceived anonymity. You find out what people are really made out of.
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Neri that happens to me too, and i consider it rude as well.
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‘Mykela ˚͜˚ Harley ‎@Tim…SO very true. My feeling is it doesnt matter whether its online, face-to-face or on the phone. Its still rude. You wudnt just hang up on someone without saying goodbye (or some form of it), you wudnt get up and walk away from someone mid convo without saying excuse me so why think that its ok to just ‘leave’ in mid convo online? I cud even understand if it was just idle chit chat and no real convo going on but if we’re actually having a conversation, how u just gonna get up and leave? Then to say it doesnt matter bc Im always online anyway? WTF!?? Thats just the rudest shyt ever. I guess thats just one more thing about their character that I see.
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Darlene Yes that is considered Extremely rude.
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Cathy I think its rude also :)))
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Andrea Yep – it’s rude!
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Carol Ann ッ Yes I think so …
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Angie about the same as being hung up on.
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‘Mykela ˚͜˚ Harley my thoughts exactly
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James Definitely rude
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Korinne Very rude – it’s the same as if you were talking in person and they just got up and left without a kiss my arse or anything!
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Its nice to see that Im not the only one who finds it rude and believes that character and manners shud been shown at all and not just when its face to face. Just getting up from mid conversation is just as bad as being hung up on. To me they are on the same level. My philosophy is if u wudnt do it or say it to my face then dont do it just bc we’re on a pc. People try to hide behind being on the pc. Why? Theres no difference. The same person u are in the real word shud be the same person you are if we’re chatting online. Theres no different set of rules or mannerisms just because we’re sitting at a pc. Instant messaging is just another form of communication not an excuse for you to be rude and show no home training. But, I digress, some people are just rude individuals and always will be. You cant change them, but you can choose not to associate with them. Its funny, I know some rude people and even when I speak to them online they have the courtesy to say goodbye or something before leaving. I guess it just all boils down to home training and manners. And I dont think that its a issue of trying to “change” a person or not accepting who they are. Regardless of your personality, rude is rude. Period. You can be the person you are and not have to be rude and disrespectful. So to me, saying that is just someone trying to make an excuse or justification for being rude. Theres never a justification for it. But, it is what it is. Personally, if you cant be around me, be it online, face-to-face or via phone and not be rude and disrespectful, then I dont need u in my life. Its one thing to have to tolerate it from strangers and people who dont know me but I dont have to tolerate it from the people who are supposed to care about me and love me. Then to be rude and I express to you that I feel you were rude and Im offended and your response is to simply make a mockery of it? That shows no regard or concern for my feelings whatsoever. Therefore if u have no concern for my feelings, u have no concern for me so theres no point in being around is there? Caring about me is also caring about my feelings and the things that matter to me. To me, something like that is a easy fix that shud be no issue. Apologize for offending and dont do it again but clearly some people dont feel like that. Oh well. I think I really need to start treating people the way they treat me. Most people like to dish it out but they hate to have to take it. Maybe then they would see how phucked up it feels to be on that side of the coin.

Oh and Ive got some new nail shots that Ive been playing with as well so feel free to check out the gallery. The theme for this week was Fimo fruit slices!

As u can see, Ive been on this huge nail and beauty kick for the last few weeks. I have YouTube burned my brain out watching videos lol. Ive always loved pretty nails and feet but I just never really wanted to do my own. I know, lazy. Lol. Whatever. If I can pay a chinese chick to do it, why shud I do it myself? Well, that was my old thought process. Now, I actually get a kick out of designing my own. Eventhough theres no one to show them off too, its all good, I can still show them off to myself. Gotta look good for ME before I can look good for someone else right? Right! I started a album in my gallery designated for my weekly adventures in this new nail escapade. You guys can check it out if u wanna. I going to TRY to do them each week. I dunno though lol. Lets just see how that goes. This week I decided to do something al little blinged out. Pics didnt come out the greatest so I dont know if u can see but theres a line of rhinestones between the pink and black line. Ofcourse this pic (on the left) is small so u cant tell but the ones in the gallery are larger so u can see them a little better. Ebay has become my best friend LMAO. I have ordered so many products off there! Its like a nail designers paradise! But hell, its cheaper than buying them in a nail store. What I wud pay $5 – $6 here for I get for $1.99 bc its coming from Hong Kong or China. Granted I gotta wait 2 weeks for it but its still cheaper. Im all about saving a buck. Im a broke b*tch, I cant be trying to act like a baller. I gotta ball on a budget! Anyway, this weeks theme was black and pink bc those are my favorite colors. Next week it will be….wait. Im not telling. You’ll just have to come back and see.

Well, there were some other things I wanted to discuss but I dont feel like it right now. Maybe I will post another blog tomorrow. I got some things I wanna get off my chest. Ha, dont I always? Well, thats what this is here for, right? So, everyone be good and I shall vent another day. Oh, and for all the soldiers that were in Afghanistan, Iraq and all those other 3rd world countries that made it safely back home,

Welcome Home. You were missed.

Hey folks. Wassup? I know, I know…I havent updated in a while but as u can tell from my last post, I had alot going on and to do. I moved last month so Ive been trying to get settled. My mom came down and stay for almost 3 weeks. It was good. We bickered here and there but overall it was a really good visit. She just left yesterday and I miss her already. 95% of my stuff is unpacked. A big thanx to my mom ofcourse. She does NOT like mess so she was working me like Kunta Kente in the cotton fields LMAO! It was cool though bc I know if she wasnt pushing me the way she did, I wud have been slacking off so it all worked out. We took a mini vacation to go to the Tybee Island Beach in Savannah GA and OMG! It was one of the worst vacations Ive ever had! Ugh! Where to even begin??

First, a friend told me it was a 2 hour drive. NOT! It was a 4 hour drive. So ofcourse we were both a little peeved about that. Nevertheless, finally got there and went to check into our hotel, which was the LaQuinta and can I say, stepping into that hotel was like stepping into hell! I dont normally do LaQuinta hotels bc theyre kinda cheap to me but the website made it look awesome plus it said it wasnt far from the beach, which was another lie bc it was 40 mins away. We didnt want to stay right on the beach bc we knew the traffic and the rates wud be astronomical. Anyway, walked into hotel and it was straight “hood”. Ms Ghetto Girl at the check in desk spoke ebonics so heavily u cud barely understand her, which should have been our first indication to turn around and walk out! But we said, “hey, we only need a bed to sleep in so lets just do it”.  Got the keys, walked into the room and was immediately slammed in the face with Eau-de-Funk! I dont know what the hell died in there but it was decrepit!! We immediately started spraying perfume, febreeze AND air freshener. The room was damp and just plain ole musty. My mom was like “Aw, HELL naw!” But I tried to be cool and say “all we need is the bed mommie, we can make it work. Lets just stay here 1 night then go to another hotel tomorrow since this one is already paid for”. So she said ok. So we tried to make the best of it. I sat on the bed and almost fell thru it but continued to grit my teeth and bare it. So we’re unloading our stuff from the car as we see the occupants in the next room leaving. Ok, no problem. However they apparently had snuck their dog in the room and he was not happy about being alone so here comes the onset of incessant and nonstop barking. We tried to sit still so maybe the dog cudnt hear us bc we thought maybe that was what was making him bark? Didnt work. after 20 mins we both had had enuff and went to the office and demanded to be moved. “Bomchickashaquita” in the office begrudgingly obliged. She moves us 6 doors down. Wow, big difference huh? But we said ok. Packed the car back up and moved down. We decided to inspect this one before we unloaded everything. Walked in, atleast this one didnt smell however we had no towels, no washcloths, no toilet paper but we were like fuck it, we’ll just call the offc and get those things but decided to go eat first. As we were coming back and walking in the next door occupant was walking out and he had a damn dog too!! My mom was livid. Then we picked up the phone to call the office and the phone didnt even work! We were thru by this point. We marched right back to the office and said fuck it, just give us our money back. Ofcourse she has an attitude but agreed to cancel and refund everything only to tell us it had to go back to the credit card and wud take 7-10 days. My mom had to stop me from going across the counter. Nevertheless, we left, we went across the street to the Windham Wyngate and stayed there. Room was AWESOME. The clerk even gave us a discount bc we told her about all the issues at LaQuinta so we were atleast happy for that day.

Woke up early, ate our free breakfast and decided to hit the beach early. We checked out bc we werent sure if we were gonna stay there another day or get a closer hotel to the beach and if so we cud always go back. Drove to the beach, which was farther than they said, but we made it. We were pissed bc u had to pay to park. WTF??! At the beach?? Nevertheless we paid. Walked down the boardwalk and step into the sand and I swear it felt I had just stepped into the fiery pits of hell!  O-M-G!! I never felt anything like that in my life! That sand burned so bad it was scorching our feet. NO LIE! It was so hot it feel like hot glass slicing into our feet! We werent even barefooted, we had on flip flops which to me was worse bc it was kicking sand up my leg with every step. It was so hot we cudnt even run to get to cover. It seemed like the water was a mile away. We were just trying to make it to the water to put out the fire under our feet. It was so horrible. And my mom has diabetes as well as some other medical issues so anything affecting her feet is a problem. We finally ran up under the boardwalk but cud barely get thru bc thats where I think 60% of the population on the beach was hiding to escape the hot sand as well. Nevertheless we pushed and scuffled our way down to the water. So we walked the beach for a bit but it was SO overly crowded u were saying “excuse me” or bumping someone every 10 seconds. We thought coming during the week wudnt be as bad but I think every person who lived in Savannah and the surrounding areas picked THAT day to go to Tybee Island. So we just decided to go up to the Boardwalk and get some icee’s. $4 for an icee. Seriously?! And it wasnt even that good. By that time my mom was like, Ok, Ive had enough. Im ready to go home. And I cudnt even blame her bc I was too. So we just got in the car and drove back home. That was a 5 hr drive. By the time we got home we were both  pissed, tired, burned and so irritated we just went to sleep. The sand had burned my mom so bad it numbed the nerves in her foot. She cudnt feel the top of her foot for days. I had little burn speckles on my feet from it. It was horrible. Then to put the icing on the cake, she left her diamond pendant necklace my step-dad had given her as a Xmas gift in the hotel. Ofcourse u know housekeeping already got their grubby lil hands on it so its gone forever. :( She was so heartbroken and I felt so bad bc there was nothing I cud do to make her feel better. So, needless to say, we will NEVER be going back to Tybee Island. EVER! You cudnt pay me to go back! Ive been to many beaches in my life but that was, by far, the worst experience ever. Money lost, time lost and didnt even have a good time. We drove 5 hrs to get to a beach that we only stayed at for 1 hour. Ugh!

Anyway, it is what it is. The only good part I can say about that vacation was just the fact of us hanging out and spending time together. We’re already planning our trip for next year. We’re gonna take a cruise to the Bahamas. Yea baby! We both havent been on a cruise nor to the Bahamas so I think that will be a great vacation for both of us. I cant wait. We’re looking to go around Sept 2011 so ofcourse I will let u guys know how that goes!

Anyway, Im tired now so Im gonna go fix something to eat and relax for a bit then do a little work in the house. So until later! MWAH!

The apartment is cool. It aint the Ritz but I can make it a home. Hell, gimme a lil time & money and I can make a cardboard box look good Getting to this point was a hot damn mess though. Where do I even start…? Lemme tell u how my week has been. Lets see if I can sum it up.

Saturday, (moving day) …my bmf (best male friend) came and brought his brother and cousin so that was cool. But we started late bc we had to wait for the leasing office to open to get the keys (dont even ask why we didnt have them before, thats another issue). While loading the truck my bmf drop the crate with all of my imported cooking oils and spices, which just happens to be one of my prized possession bc I got them from all over the world, so out of about 25 I now have like 10!    GRRRRRRRR!! Granted, I know it was an accident but that doesnt change the fact that they are gone. It was a careless accident that shudnt have happened. Ofcourse I threw a damn Again, doesnt change the fact thou bc Im sure they will probably never be replaced. Some of them had serious sentimental value. Anyway. Moving on, while moving stuff in since they cudnt get my desk into the doorway of the 2nd bdrm without taking the edges off (which they cudnt bc we didnt have any tools) they decided to leave the the desk wedged in the damn doorway which ofcourse is completely blocking entryway into the room. Lucky for me I have a Jack-N-Jill bathroom which allows entryway into the 2nd bedroom from the bathroom otherwise I cudnt have even gotten into the room! Now, I know some will say well what else cud they have done? I understand if u cant get it in the room, fine. Thats not my issue. Atleast pull it back into the hallway though instead of blocking the doorway completely, feel me? Cant hook up the washer bc the prev tenant left a rusted hose on the line and we have no wrench to get it off. So ofcourse, now we have to wait for maintenance.

Sunday…I had to rent a 2nd truck/cargo van to get the rest of my stuff from Will’s house and pretty much unpacked it alone. 90% of it. Still no washing machine. Cant find the shower curtain, towels or sheets.

Monday…Comcast comes out to install cable and internet only to tell me theres no outlet in the 2nd bdrm which is where my computer is and bc its an apartment they cant install one. So I have about 50 ft of cable draped across my hallway running from master bdrm to the 2nd bdrm so I can have internet. Thats an accident just waiting to happen! And I already know Im gonna be the one to break my damn neck on it. Still no washing machine.

Tuesday…Still cant find the sheets. Almost stabbed my bmf bc he came in to try to fix the washing machine line and didnt tell me he was coming or announce his presence and I was asleep. So I woke up simply hearing someone in my house downstairs which scared the Beelzebub outta me.  If I had a gun, I wud no longer have a bmf.

Wednesday…Was supposed to get a ride to the grocery store being as I have nothing, and I do mean NOTHING to eat in my house. Didnt happen. So the food saga still continues. Dominoes has become my best friend and Im quickly getting disgusted with it. Drill battery died so I cant even put my bed completely up bc I need the drill to do so. So now I have to buy a new drill.

Thursday… Maintenance finally comes to fix the washer. I turn it on to do laundry only to have my laundry room and kitchen completely flooded with water bc my drain hose has a crack in it. WTF?! Are you kidding me?? Seriously?! What else?!! So now I have to buy a new washer hose.

And here we are today, Friday, still no food, still no drill and I dont even wanna think about what else may happen through out the day. So, as u can see, Ive had a stressful week. I was faced with the decision of choosing to take the money I had and buy a car or get my own place and I willingly decided that a place was more of an immediate need than a car but I tell ya, not having a car is a bitch to the 10th degree. Waiting on other people to do things for you, IF they actually even do it. But, I digress, it is what it what it is. Im thankful for everything that I have bc I know there are ppl in the world that dont have a roof over their head. I simply see now, when I ask for things, I need to be a lil more specific lol. I asked for my own place but I didnt want all the extra added issues. But clearly that just comes along with the territory. Oh well, guess that just shows, You should always be careful what u ask for!

Ive pretty much taken that same approach with my love life. Some people believe that its better to “take whatever you can get” until you can get what you want. Why? Why settle for less. If Im gonna be unhappy and unfulfilled then I may as well be by myself. I dont want a temporary satisfaction, someone simply to ‘fill the void’, I want that person who makes me feel complete. And theres nothing wrong with being single until you find that. Does it get lonely? HELL 2 DA YEAH! Sure does. But you know what? That will make me appreciate it that much more once I do find it. And I swear Im so sick of people asking me why am I still single. No matter what answer I give its not going to truly be satisfactory for them. Then ofcourse its always followed up by “well youre attractive so I know alot of guys ask you out.” Ok…and? So what. Just because someone puts a offer on the table doesnt mean that thats the offer for YOU. Everything that look like steak….aint! Lol. So now, I no longer explain, Ive simplified into just saying “because I have yet to find the one who makes me not want to be”. Plain and simple. Doesnt get any clearer than that. If you dont get it after that, you never will.

Anywho…lemme bring this to a close. I have *ish* I need to be packing and *ish* I need to be doing so lemme atleast go do something. Plus theres still ALOT of details that have to be worked out. I’ll try to blog again before the move but if I dont, wish me well. If you dont hear from me again, its bc I killed somebody for plucking my nerves and went to jail!  Ciao!

I thank you for that onething
That was previously my everything
And now that I know I have nothing
But it led me to realizing something

That everything would mean nothing
If that onething is missing.

I have to also give mad love and respect for my “bmf” who once was lost but has now found their way back into my life, for all of their love, help and support bc without them, none of this would be possible.  Its so true that people say u can always see who truly cares about you when the chips are down by who’s there to pick you up. Most people say they will be there to support you, but few rarely ever are. Me and “bmf” have had or ups and down, our laughs and arguments and even for a while didn’t speak to one another, but I have to admit that every time that I have truly needed them, they’ve been there, armor shining gallantly. We’ve experience SO much stuff together. Financial woes, relationship woes, life woes and everything else. And no matter what, they’ve always been one whose shoulder I knew I could cry on. Even during the times when we were mad and didn’t speak, we still looked out for one another. That, to me, is a true friendship. Unconditional. No matter what has transpired, I know that if I am in need, they will do anything they can to help me just as I would do the same for them. I wish everyone took friendship that loyally. So, to you, my “bmf”, I say that, if nothing more, no matter what distance or miles or issues separate us, you will always have a true friend for life. And thats real talk.

Moving on, mommie is excited about my move. She wants to fly down and stay for a few weeks the week after I move. I dunno if thats a good thing or bad …Im serious. LOL. It will be nice though bc I know its gonna be an adjustment going back to living on my own but usually after a couple days me and mommie have gotten on each others nerves enough that we both wanna strangle each other but, I will do my best to keep it under control. Especially since I dont have anywhere to bury the body! LMAO!! Nevertheless, I will be happy to see her.

Anyway, lemme bring this to a close, much to do and little time to try to do it in. So I will update u guys later. Ciao!